I'm pretty much since the beginning on Matrix. I have never experienced any questionable content. Large chats (thousands of users) have some spam problems, but the spammers banned quickly and the posts are being removed.

What am I doing right?

You can't know with certainty on Signal that the client and the server are actually keeping your messages encrypted at rest, you have to trust them.

With Matrix, if you self host, you are the one in control.

Some advantages are listed in this /c/Technology comment:

lemmy.sdf.org/comment/15398090

Matrix 2.0 Is Here! - SDF Chatter

Lemmy

^{lemmy.sdf.org}

It's the issues with XMPP's spec: you don't just use XMPP, you use XMPP + your favorite optional spec implementations.

Sorry, what's the issue exactly? You called it an issue and I fail to see the problem. The X in XMPP stands for "extensible", so it is being used precisely as intended, so that is still XMPP.

You could use your favorite extensions if you want, but all up-to-date implementations follow the standard defined by XMPP, and it includes all features of a modern messaging experience

If your friends aren't on the same server/client combo then you won't be able to communicate with them (effectively).

You have to be going out of your way to have a non-compliant server or client. This isn't really an issue that happens.

If it were to get a single, matrix-style "spec release" (think an aggregation of existing features into one collection) that contains/requires a bunch of modern chat features I've come to expect from programs

That's how it is today though! I see the issue, you said you haven't tried it in years. Admittedly, I only started with XMPP 2 years ago but haven't had any of the issues you mentioned. Not sure when this became the status quo, but it is pretty awesome. Maybe it is worth trying again 😀

Can you please explain why? A quick look at the spec for both protocols shows you that matrix is literally a hundred times more complex, so I don't understand the basis of the contrary. The matrix creators have shown they are okay with increased complexity under the pretext of a more complete experience, but in reality, XMPP has achieved the same features with far less complexity.

If you're speaking about self hosting, again, I don't see how, as matrix is notorious for self hosting issues. XMPP's snikket works out of the box and has all the commonly used features and plugins pre-baked. The underlying prosody implementation is a step down, but is also quite easy as long as you know what plugins and options to activate (and if you don't, then use snikket).

I don't want to defend Matrix. I agree that it is not stable and lightweight. However, I believe it is simpler than XMPP. Wanna set up a server? Synapse. Need a client? Element. The default softwares are easy for new users to discover.

Also, the fact that Matrix has a single protocol means that in theory all servers and clients can work with each other (Although I know we are far from that at the moment). It is much better than XMPP's XEPs in terms of simplicity.

It's not that I don't like XMPP. I want a stable, encrypted, federated messaging platform. However, in terms of money and motivation, Matrix seems to be closer to that right now.

With all due respect, this is a very biased view

Wanna set up a server? Prosody (which has a hassle free out of the box experience through snikket)

Need a client? Conversations

The default softwares are easy to use for new users.

For matrix, however, you are forced to use synapse. You complain that xmpp is not a single protocol, but in reality, all the major implementations are compatible. Can you say the same about matrix? The other implementations aren't even close to achieving this.

Xmpp's extensions are a powerful feature, and the issues you think it presents do not exist with xmpp anymore, but is actually the status quo for Matrix.

When I decided to try XMPP, I had to do a lot of research to decide which applications I should use for the server and client. I did not experience this in Matrix. And yes, I know Matrix is ​​not stable. I am not against that. It's just easier to get on board.

If we told two people to use these two software independently, they would start using Matrix much more faster than XMPP. I think this is enough to call it uncomplicated.

Also, would you recommend Snikket server (or Prosody) for 1:1, group calls and screen sharing?

would you recommend Snikket server (or Prosody) for 1:1, group calls and screen sharing?

Answering this first so it doesn't get buried down. Screen sharing wouldn't be supported by xmpp since its just messaging, but I believe Jitsi has that feature. But for the rest, snikket and conversations (for android) I would recommend, yes.

When I decided to try XMPP, I had to do a lot of research to decide which applications I should use for the server and client.

Whatever is the first answer you get from a web search should be fine. Most sources recommend conversations for client, but all the other recommendations you'll see are good too. For server, the easiest to setup is snikket, but all the other and up to date implementations should work okay, although they might need some configuration if you want all the modern messaging features.

If we told two people to use these two software independently, they would start using Matrix much more faster than XMPP.

Why do you think so? Let's assume a user who doesn't self host. XMPP clients are far more stable and error free, whereas matrix has random issues every now and then, especially with encryption and public groups.

XMPP clients are a lot more customizable and come in different models. Matrix has only one client that works well (and some forks of it that look roughly the same). I'd say that's a win for XMPP for new users.

Now let's say it's a self hosting user. I don't need to say much here, matrix is notorious for self hosting issues, and being a massive resource hog. XMPP, you have snikket, which works out of the box without issues and can be hosted on a raspberry pi even.

I may be biased here, so I urge you to tell me, in what way would a new user adopt matrix faster? I can tell you one. Matrix has corporate funding and has managed to advertise better. That's their only win.

Have you used XMPP recently and ran into the issue of non-obscure servers, clients, or self-hostable implementations using different extensions or not supporting them? (I actually haven't experienced this even on the obscure ones, but can't confirm for all of them). Please do not make that accusation, because that I'd really not what happens in reality.

it's hardly the standard

Why not when... It literally is? And all major implementations follow it? That is by definition a standard.

and we're not really talking about plain XMPP then anymore.

Why not? "extensible" is in the name. It is meant to be extended. The protocol is being used exactly as planned and intended.

but God is it painful to self host an xmpp server

You are in for a world of pain regarding Matrix if you think xmpp is painful to host. Compared to hosting a Matrix server, XMPP is very pain-free to host. Sure, it takes a slight bit of effort to understand that there are other protocols than HTTP, but beyond that that initial learning curve, XMPP servers are extremely hassle free.

And you must have used extremely outdated clients. All the modern ones (which there are plenty) support replies and reactions etc. ootb. Let me guess, you only tried Pidgin? That client hasn't been updated for xmpp in 15 years or so, and is by far the worst.

XMPP Works fine when it's setup or when you don't manage the hosting, but God is it painful to self host an xmpp server.

I recommend you use snikket if you're having trouble selecting plugins, because it has everything you need out of the box and its super easy to setup.

It even needs a special setup to work on restricted networks via port 80/443 because it wants port 5222 and 5223,

Isn't that just a configuration in prosody / snikket? What implementation did you use that didn't let you configure this? Or are you expecting major implementations to default to port 80/443? Because that would be quite problematic.

Most basic communication features in 2024 such as replies reactions quoting threads etc.etc. are unsupported ootb, and you need both a client that supports the extensions (often very slow to adapt "new" standards AND a server that has enabled the plugin for that feature.

This is already supported by the major clients. I know for sure that conversations on android (and I suppose the many clients based on it) supports it. For server implementations, it is available out of the box on snikket, and it is a plugin you have to enable on prosody.

~~Matrix 2.0~~ ActivityPub

Point proven before i could add: The chats should be encrypted (there's an FEP somewhere)

Edit: now they made my point look wrong (it's actually right), heres the sup server source code on how they implement it themselves: github.com/thesupapp/server

GitHub - thesupapp/server: The backend for the sup. app

The backend for the sup. app. Contribute to thesupapp/server development by creating an account on GitHub.

^GitHub

But it does support chats/DMs, and there was an FEP for chat encryption

Sup software does this: github.com/thesupapp/server

GitHub - thesupapp/server: The backend for the sup. app

The backend for the sup. app. Contribute to thesupapp/server development by creating an account on GitHub.

^GitHub